SitaRam , RadheShyam , GauriShankar , LakshmiNarayan , Umapati were popular names in the yesteryears which categorically proclaimed that according to Vedic teachings and ancient Aryan scriptures women have had a higher status than men so much so that even when names of gods and goddesses were given to male children , the name of the goddess was always placed before the god ! Considered to be emblems of prosperity and good fortune Woman stood paramount in Vedic culture. No religious ceremony was complete without the wife's presence. In Vedic civilisation women were revered and valued not only as child- bearers , nurturerers and custodians of new generations but also as individuals with immense ability to see the truth and contribute greatly to human society.
Suddenly a society that honoured and empowered women started degenerating into a malicious and spiteful setup with different norms for men and women. This gave rise to the most ignoble and the basest instinct in the male species , that of dominating their women folk which has evidently had precarious ramifications on the Indian social fabric.
Chauvinism in India dates back to the connoisseur of male domination, the great sage Manu who initiated and propogated a code of conduct that denigrated women and idolised men. He opined that women are like property on which only the owner has absolute powers
." A girl , a young woman or even an older woman should not do anything independently even in her own house."
He goes on to besmirch The Creator's biological plan deliberating that during the menstrual period a woman is impure and should be considered untouchable, thrreby reinstating patriarchal norms .It was he who strongly established that a woman must always obey and be under the control of her father as a girl , her husband when married and then her son when she is widowed.
Equality was abhorred and the men were literally brainwashed and trained to condemn women folk and to subjugate them in every possible way.
It has been universally acclaimed that a society , a family where women are given their due share of respect and honour thrives. Viceversa wherever women are snubbed , disregarded and humiliated the family and society at large suffer and do not progress.
Countries where this is happening are living testimony to the fact .
... Chauvinism is at its worst when it tends towards physical abuse. However , what is far more detrimental and demeaning than physical abuse is the mental torture that is caused by harsh words , chiding tones , the tendency to always shift the blame and make the other feel guilty . Everytime this happens not only is it a setback for self confidence it also creates a sore irremediable hurt within that is difficult to heal...it is as if some corner of the heart is dented forever.
Excessive and indiscreet pampering of sons instilling in them a superiority complex from a very young age , gender bias over generations has led to nurturing chauvinism . The " pati parmeshwar " concept has likewose strengthened this mindset of the male species. Daughters were drilled and grilled on how to make their parmeshwars always happy ...be it through their culinary skills , their eagerness and prowess to enjoy physical relations with the spouse or their sharp wit , common sense and intelligence and the most mandatory , ofcourse through attractive external appearance .
Our earlier generations were definitely at fault in raising their male children imbibing in them the notion that their supremacy is a sign of their manhood . The only way for chauvinism to die is to bring up sons as daughters teaching them basic human values and most importantly respect for their female counterparts..